Now, in the English civilization, in their culture, first thing; kneeling to the ground, bowing the head and offering salutations is not practiced. They do handshake. The Englishman, from his side, gave the best of behaviour. He learned how it is done and he did that. Killing his "I" ness, removing his ego, he offered salutations. And in response to his salutations, what does the Guru say? -That go and ask for pardon to the shoe, and beg pardon from the door. You've hurt the shoe and you've hurt the door & they did not do anything wrong to you. The Guru became quiet. Now, strange problem, -who begs pardon from a shoe! And who begs pardon of a door! They are not human beings. Neither animals, insects... Inert objects. From an inert object. But, now, the one for whom he traveled miles together... So, it has to be done. So, he went back. Now, say, "Should I ask forgiveness to my shoe!" So, he picked up his shoes, with both his hands, kept them properly. He joined both his hands & pleaded, "Please forgive me! I slammed you forcefully!" It felt so strange-forgiveness from shoe! So, he folded his hands, bowed, and said, "Door, please forgive me! I" "beat you hard!" But, when he did this... Did it & returned, sat down, then the Guru asked, "What do you feel inside your heart?" "And speak truth." He said, "Something has broken inside." No one has behaved in such a way with me. I am a famous writer. I am a reputable person. I enjoy a status. Here, I have come to meet you for my research. But, no one has behaved like this with me. The Guru said, "So, the way you behaved with your shoe, how was it right?" "And it was your shoe!" "You may do anything. What harm did my room's door do unto you," "that you beat it so hard." "Your anger burst out on your shoes, you anger" "burst out on my door. And coming inside" "you offer salutations to me. So, how do I accept an angry, egoistic," "person's salutations?" "Clean your act." Clean your act! It is difficult to interact with a Sadguru, as Sadguru won't accept falsehood and pretensions. And you don't stay without pretension and lies. You are an angry person. Somewhere or the other, you would burst out your anger! If you're not humble, the your ego would exhibit in some way. And if you're violent, Then you would end up being violent. Now, this English writer did violence. Against what? -The shoe. Against what? -The door. The Guru pointed out. -Not acceptable. What broke down in the Englishman's mind? -His ego. And we take care of our ego. We nurture it. We don't allow it to get hurt. If one wants to step on the ladder on True Knowledge, then the first step is humbleness. The second-Non-violence. The third- -Non-anger. The fourth step. -Renunciation. Renunciation does not mean that, leaving everything, in a loincloth, sit in Hardwar. Renunciation means we are not attached to anything. And secondly, only as much as we need, we keep only that much. We don't gather things we don't need. I will give you two examples, today. There's a disciple of mine. His mother, 84-years old. I was staying... During Gurgaon satsang... So, I was staying in their home. So, the mother was sitting beside me on her wheelchair. She said, "I have" "in my whole life, followed this rule," "In a year, only times I take sweets-one, on Diwali." "Second on Ram Navami." She is a devotee of Ram Ji-reads Ramayana. In a year, eats sweets only 2 times. Patience... We will call this patience. No one has told her. There's no dearth at home. All is there. But, still she followed the rule she set. The one who is not eating sweets at all! Will he get diabetes? Will he get diseased? Okay! There's no problem in sugar. One person said, sugar leads to this issue and that issue.-Surely! Another said, sugar makes us fat! What I say is that If we get fat by eating sugar then, ants would be elephants. Where is the ant found? Say. Keep salt, turmeric, pepper, pulses, place flour, Where would the ant go? Did you ever see an overweight, obese ant? What would you find in a sweets shop? How much ever the obstructions, she finds one way or another. And they have a wireless system. Just one may come from anywhere. "Come, ye' all!" She will call upon all her folks! She will call all her friends. They have messages. Wireless messages go. Oh, so quickly, there's big line! Sugar does not make you fat. On eating sugar, when we don't do any exercise or physical work, then, it is bad. Otherwise, how does sugar...? We had a great Vaidya, Vaidya Jaina, His name was Ranjeet Jaina, till the age of 95, he lived. He washed his clothes himself. And ironed them himself. So, when he came to meet me in Ashram... Then, he was very fond of milk. We have cows, so he liked to have milk... So, at times, what happened... He was very much senior to me agewise... A very loving relation with me. So, I asked him, "How much sugar may I put in your milk?" So, I have sugar in my hand. So, I asked. A tumbler of milk is in front of me. So, I put one. "How much should I add? May I add another?" He said, "Sure." Should I add a third one? He said, "Add as much as you like!" 92-years old Vaidya, he is. But, otherwise, he has a slim body. He didn't even once refuse to add sugar. He wouldn't say no even to the fifth one. But, I said, "Its more than enough!" Even I can't have more than this. He drank milk. Cow's milk. He added sugar and took. And he had only four pairs of clothes-4 white kurta-pyjama. For winters, one coat & one sweater. And one Nehru jacket, he used to wear. That's it. Four pairs for winters, four pairs for summers, three for winters-sweater, coat and half jacket-That's it. And I recall, when we went to their home, then, white saree. Small height, white saree... And exclusively sparkling saree. She used to wash herself. She used to iron herself & how many? -Three sarees. She has sons, money, she may buy as many as she wants. But, how many?-3 sarees. Now, these attributes, at one time, in our society, these were commonplace. Regardless of the riches, they stayed simple. Now, if no money is there. With shopping through the bank, online shopping-almirahs are full. And still they wonder-"No clothes to wear, no clothes to wear!" There should be no tendency of hoarding. Only which are essential, those things should be kept by a good householder. And it is good to be a householder. The one that is established in their house-that's a grihastha. Griha means... Outside, there is a house. It's not a home. This body is also an outer capsule. It's not real home. Griha means where we stay. That's a griha. In this body, is the mind. And in this mind, "I" stay. So, am I established in my mind or am I running in the outer world at all times? So, the one that is established in one's home-that's a grihastha. So, first, calm the mind. When the mind is established in calmness, it means the home is established in calmness. Okay, mind is also not our real home. The bani says, -Avinashi sukh aapan asan, Avinashi sukh apan asan, teh janam maran kou kaha binasan|| Where there is no birth, Where there is no death-That's your abode. Where there is no birth-death, that is your abode. And which home is that?-Avinaashi... Your Own Self. This is Avinaashi. So, the body is a extrinsic, the mind is also extrinsic. Then, to adorn the body, you're on full time... shopping... shopping... shopping... shopping... I read somewhere, an Englishwoman's husband died, So, for burying, they dress in new clothes. So, for shopping, she goes to the departmental store. There, the attendant asks... Means.. "What kind of" "suit would you like?" He showed. She asked about the price range. "Do you need woolen, rayon... what kind of fabric?" "Silk...?" She said, "My husband was the most darling person," "So, I want the best!" He said, "Okay!" So, the best suit was put forth. Now, the black one also looked good and the navy blue looked fabulous, too. She said, "Give both!" He wondered, "Both! For a dead man?" She said, "Who knows, if he wants to change!" There should be an option, no? Not just one. Two! The one who will have the tendency to gather, that person is surrounded by great issues. I recall, at one time, here, in Ashram, a woman... Now, I don't know, when, where, why, she took off her watch. Then, she could not find the watch "Where did my watch go?" "Where did my watch go?" "Did you see? Now, 500 people live in ashram. She kept asking from the 500... " It looks like this... it has a steel band..." "It was such a fantastic watch. My husband had gifted it." "He gifted in 'the Year 47. It was such an occasion... It was a Spring Day... It was also cloudy...! The entire story, she narrated to 500 people. "My watch, my watch...!" "My watch, my watch...! Where did it go?" The, she started suspecting everyone. Then, she complained in the office. A lot of hullabaloo was going on! She kind of.. declared everyone as a thief. "My watch, my watch...!" "My watch..!" I asked whether you came to meditate...? Or meditate on the watch.. or on the Lord! However, she felt so shocked for her watch, so much shock... Then, this... reached me. So, that's okay. A sentimental value is there. "So, if she's so bothered, then, all of you look thoroughly once." Okay! Everyone started searching, everyone started searching. Searched at every place. Not found. I said, "Do one thing. Go to her room." "And check her room thoroughly." Guess what? It was found in her pillow cover! Would taken off at night, no? Then, her hand might have touched it. So, it slipped into the cover. So, when pillow was picked to check below, on the mattress, it was not found. As it has slipped inside. So, she tightened the noose on everyone. "My watch," "My watch, my watch, my watch!" In blabbering "Watch, watch!", the precious time she lost, well, what about that? And what about others' precious time lost? Do you get it? Time! Time! Time! Time! Time is priceless! Wasted her own time. And also others' time! And she said, "Thank Goodness! I found my watch!" I said, "Grab your watch," "pick your suitcase, out!" "Don't come again!" Means..."What's this?" See, you have a thing Use it, don't love it! Use things. Things are meant to be used. You have a watch. Use it. Jewelry. Use it. Money is there. Use it. You won't fall in love with useful things, mad man! Now, you... You have fallen in love with gold sets. Now, you dream of it alone, "Oh, my" "dear, how beautiful you look! When you adorn my neck," "how pretty do I look!" Now, someone deems the gold chain as their beloved, won't we need to send them to the mental asylum? If you have money, use it. You don't have. Don't bother. If you have a car use it. Don't have-don't bother. Things are meant to be used. Things are not meant to be loved. Okay, if it's a thing, it will break. When it breaks, they cry! A 65-year old woman was shouting on her daughter-in-law. "The plates were of my heirloom, you broke them!" Well, old lady, you're all set up for pack up! You're bothered for your heirloom! Means... Broken plates are bothering you! You're after her... You want to kill her... What does it mean? She went on & on & on... They were part of my heirloom. "My father was so rich. He bought from Royal China, London..." "The shop was in Trifalgar Square." Means... every single detail... In such a detail... What may I say? Horrible!
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