The psychiatrist say the first 7 years of a child's life, in those seven years their unconscious is getting trained meaning to be a functional adult or to be a functional family member simple things like how to sit, is also taught to a child not to just keep shaking legs, this is taught. Not to eat with open mouth this too needs to be taught do not keep looking here and there also needs to be told. Talk less when to speak when not to say anything at all now go do your work so the child until the age of seven years through the cognitive senses interacts with all family members watching them and keeps observing them and the child takes all of it in drinks in... all that what he see's in the child's unconscious, Avchetan man (subconscious mind) all these things get stored like if we say of language be it A, B, C, D, or ka, kha, ga (the Hindi syllables) or kka, khkha, gga, be it in Punjabi be it alif, be, pe, te Urdu letters the alphabets in what age did you learn them? you learn at a very early age, when did you learn to count 1, 2, 3,4? this too you learnt at a very young age who are our relatives what colours are there what shapes are there what patterns are there what are the names of vegetables which vegetable is of what colour if you pay attention, books for small children all contain this information keep 4 colours in front of a child and ask to identify red black, blue, yellow which one is which, the child picks one is it that in the first go the child picks the right one, or the mother needs to tell a hundred times this is blue, this is blue, then again when asked he picks up red and gives he is again told... no, no this is red this is red blue, blue, blue how many times you would have told blue to your children or if you remember, then your parents how many times how many times did they recall, remember how till age 7 training is given this is a hand these are fingers, the child is learning... these are fingers these are fingers, ask them which is thumb, he shows finger then tell, no, no this is finger tell me which is your thumb? many times do parents do it? tell me which is your thumb? this is thumb, this is thumb, how many times do parents do it? many times do parents do it? they are literally going insane like in Punjabi it is more fun to say it 'Shudayi' (crazy) ho jaate hai this is red this is red, this is red and then amongst 4 people to show that my child has a good understanding of colours they ask the child which is red colour and the child picks up black and gives the child gets whacked receives two three slaps then the poor child is in pain then to escape from pain the child begins to make an effort to learn the names of colours how hard does a child have to toil how much is taught to the child small children many a times when they come and as a habit, I hand out some sweets or chocolates to them in the form of Prasad so they extend their hand so I tell them no, how does one accepts Prasad, extend both your hands so even I train your children, join your hands, so they do (indicating through gestures how to) (join hands) leaving them open from the front, do it this way, then they do this and I place the sweet over it, this then is training for the child's unconscious mind or not? that when you go to the Guru you receive Prasad this gets etched in his memory to get Prasad one needs to get up and go and after receiving the Prasad if one does not bow down then granny whacks, chiding for not bowing down and sends back to go & offer obeisance and bow down once some elderly sent a child that you didn't pay respect go bow down at the masters feet touch the forehead (to the ground) the child came and touched my forehead now the child did not understand that he had to touch his own forehead to the ground, he came and touched my forehead, I was like what are you trying to seek, there is knowledge in there a small child has to be taught this too when you go to the toilet wash hands before eating you must wash hands child learns so many things which is why the unconscious training is very important so if your children or grand children if they are small then probably the mistakes in your training at least in their training those mistakes you must not make, a few suggestions let me give, never say to a child that he is a fool, because if you keep repeatedly call him a fool foolish, duffer, I am stupid never say to a child that you are good for nothing never say that never tell the child that you know nothing, you are stupid, when you say this, 10, 20 or thousand times, this will get etched in his mind that I am stupid, I have no brains and nothing will work for me and remember, for this child then nothing will ever work out for this child India is the only country where a small child is considered as a form of God is called baby God now think about it and see. calling a child God, telling him that you are a form God, you are God you are God so what is going into his unconscious? I am God God is within me and on the other hand you hurl abuses in Punjabi and say you are feather brained, you are stupid which is why with small children when you are making conversation or when a small child is around you then you must be very cautious as the child learns what you speak and also learns what you do even what you unconsciously do the, child learns those too which is why we need to be very careful about it, family, the whole family needs to be extremely careful let me give an example, one of my disciples in Noida the family's grandson they sat down to eat, his grandmother, when the food was served, she took a bite of the chapati and began to eat, as she put it in her mouth, her grandson said grandmother! you did not pray Guruji says first we should pray, you did not pray! the lady said I was so ashamed that my 6 year old grandson is correcting me and reminding me and just a few days ago I was teaching him that whenever you eat something, before that you must pray thank God and then begin to eat and here I did not say my prayers so how the child noticed and without hesitating checked me that Grandmother, you did not pray I will complain about you to Gurumaa you did not pray before eating that lady said that her mind became so sad that how she had committed that mistake but at the same time she was very happy that today this kid who born yesterday is so mindful that he is intelligent enough now that he can tell me what is wrong and he is telling me you are not doing correct, you are supposed to pray first then eat my child is giving me such knowledge that is why, our unconscious mind, how we train it really matters anything that we repeatedly say over and over like 'A" B, C, A B, C, D many a thousand times that child repeats the alphabets, A, B, C... then he memorises it now does Jyoti get up in the morning and start calling out A B C D........ A B C D E, why not now? because now she knows, it is not needed any more similarly in spirituality too, repetition is given a lot of importance this is what we call the Mantra Jap where you sit and repeat the Mantra the Mantra when you chant calling it out again and again in this too your unconscious mind gets trained
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