Sheetal okay it is very easy for me to fall in love they say falling in love hurts and it sure does i I feel I don't expect much in return but I perhaps do since I end up getting hurt please give me tips and teach me how to die ease in love very nice question number one when you say I keep on falling in love that which makes you fall is not love that which makes you rise is love say you fell into a relationship with the person and then that person says I am eyeing that diamond necklace can you go and steal it for me and if you do that you may say you have done it in name of love but this is not love that which makes you possessive is not love that which hurts is not love and actually when you will fall in a relationship with any man or woman it is going to hurt you why they have some expectations is you have some expectations and it won't match they have some dreams you have some dreams the dreams clash then what is left is adjustment that is which people keep on doing in the institution of marriage keep on adjusting the keep on making a compromise because now you cannot run off and now you have to live with this person so make best of it I know a young boy was playing in his backyard father came from the office he must be pissed off from something and when he saw his boy making noise with his friends and playing the ball he went to the backyard and started yelling at this little boy so hard boy started crying when the father had blurted out everything and he left the boy went to his mother crying and he said mom you could find only this man to marry you couldn't find a better person something is wrong with this person next day there was a newspaper the Sunday newspaper and the child was flipping the pages and then he saw exchange sale so he again went to his mother mom can we exchange a father it's a horrible to live with him love which doesn't hurts love which makes you rise it's going to be only one kind of love and that love is the divine love when you'll be in love with God that is the only time when it won't hurt and you will just rise and never fall rest all sorts of and all types of love which are not love which are either friendship or infatuation or an institution learn this it's a path of thorns don't expect flowers once in a while you will find some moments good moments once in a while but there will be very fleeting moment okay let me ask you one question what's your age forty how many moments of joy did happen to you yesterday when oh don't don't include me now don't include me now leave okay okay let's go back which was the moment of joy for you a week ago you don't remember because you never had it please look in your own life I'm asking all of you sitting here if you will look for a moment of a real joy it is hard to find you may say you ate a good food well that was pleasing for the tongue it was not joy you may say you found a good deal in buying a car or a piece of electronics then that is something easy and good for your purse that's a different story that sometimes you get to buy cheap electronics you buy it you keep it in your study or your room for a few weeks and then you dump it in your garage and then you have a garage sale just look back in England a girl got married last year when I met her after three months passed I asked her one question I said what was the most ecstatic moment for you when this marriage happened and she said oh I can't recall I said why she said I was so stressed out that everything should go find the party the guest the food the photographers and I had not slept very well last night because I was worrying hell what is going to happen tomorrow and my face was little swollen and my makeup artist was saying what did you do to your face and I was so sky nuf in pain actually and I said did you get married to experience pain I said no anyhow take more time and take more time and look back what was the most ecstatic moment then I came back to India and this year when I went there she said to me I haven't yet found a single moment and on the top now she was with the Lord of stress because now she cannot just come back to her mom she loves her mom too much she has to ask her husband her mother-in-law father-in-law and sister-in-law and you know can I go no there's so much work guests are coming we have to go to party and then this and that and she said I miss my home I miss my freedom I miss my wand I miss my security I said why she said this has been a 1 here with my husband and we haven't yet said I love you to one another my god what a loveless marriage be sincere and look in your marriages I hope you find something joyful in there something pleasing this is not what it should have been but unfortunately this is what happens I have talked about the institution of marriage and what it means to be in a marriage and how to prepare for a marriage and how to go into this institution without hurting yourself or injuring anyone else and how to be in the indulgence but yet being away from it and how to keep a discipline in the balance in your married life so that you don't lose the grip of your life so I have written this book called transcending indulgence anyone who is about to get married or is already married I suggest they should read this book maybe this gives them some light how to lead marriage which is not a hindrance but which becomes a great strength for them [Music] you [Music]
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